Posts Tagged ‘writing with baby’

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Things are never quite so perfect as they appear. I wanted to just prod something out really quick to let you guys know that. So many people post perfectly posted photos and really make it seem like everything is amazing. Even I make some pretty fantastically posed pictures for headers.

I took the one above, and then I kinda zoomed out to see what the rest of everything looked like.

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Yep. That crackup in the corner is my kiddo giving me the stink eye. There are extra coffee cups, water bottles, a really dirty kitchen table… there are a bunch of things that make the picture imperfect. Never get discouraged because of pictures and snippets of people that you see on the internet, or even as a celebrity.

Those are just small fractions of a whole thing. I promise you, they aren’t accurate to how the world is really going. Everyone has mess, everyone has stress. Everyone has issues, and that’s what makes us unique and who we are. That’s what gives us the experiences in life that help us to be better writers.

So, the next time you’re on an instagram and you’re wondering how in the hell someone has such a perfect writing space, or a perfect bookshelf, or a really neat corner where they film videos…

Remember, there’s probably a pile of laundry and some empty cups just out of sight! ❤ We are all perfectly imperfect, and that’s just the way we need to be! So, don’t give up — keep on chugging ❤ Keep on writing!

Author Amanda McCormick

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I’m not sure that “Writing Tips and Tricks” is exactly the right banner for this piece, but since I wasn’t sure where else to stick it… it’s just gonna have that one and we’re gonna roll with it. Anyway, hey guys! I wanted to touch on something that is an every day thing for any of us who write — whether it is your immediately family of your parents, siblings, or cousins… or whether it’s your husband/wife, or child. Your doggo or kitty, or reptilian friend…

Writing with family can be complicated. It’s not just about the fact that you have to navigate through activities that will eat up your writing time — it’s also about the fact that having a support system on that emotional level can be very important for you. I can’t talk from everyone’s perspective, but I can give a little peeksie into my life, and how I navigate being a wife, a mother and a friend while still getting my writing done! Maybe it will help you out, too!

First and foremost, I have a supportive partner. I’ve dated writers before, and while there was something lovely about that in the fact that we related to one another, I have actually found myself happier with someone who doesn’t write. Writing is my passion, and while Josh and I share quite a few passions in common, being able to have something that is my own is important. It’s part of my identity, and something that I can enjoy on my own. However, Josh is extremely supportive. That’s kinda my tip number one: when you have a partner, it’s so important that they’re supportive of your passion, even if it’s not a passion that they share in common with you.

I’ve been encouraged by him to get my writing done, even when I felt like I couldn’t do it. It’s just… it’s something that you can’t replace, and something that I think is so important for anyone who has a passion that they want to help blossom.

As a secondly important thing, I have this baby here — he takes a lot of my time away from me, and I know that it’s not that easy to function as a new mother and someone who also wants to be productive. I took my time getting back into writing; self care is what this second part is about. Make sure that you find your own flow. Make sure that you find out how much you can do, and how you can do it… but then do it. Don’t let yourself stop just because your life has changed. Don’t give up your passions just because you are a new parent. There’s still time. It’s just about finding the ability to fit them in around your new schedule. I figured out that schedule, and now I have time to write!
Honestly though, everything is about balance. Find a partner that is your balance – find time to write while taking care of your baby. Find time to balance your world ❤ It is what is really important about all of this. I’m going to  be writing a lot more on this subject, I think – I want to do a lot of touching on this and how I still end up doing things in my weekly  updates!
So, until then! Keep reading and writing, y’all!
Author Amanda McCormick

21430430_10212951907566235_7660145199798381790_nSo, floppy necks make for really bad writing time, as my title says. I was expecting to be able to get some writing done while the baby was fresh and new… but alas, he has a distinct radar for a few things.

One: He knows when I’m eating. He senses it and finds complete indignation in the fact that I would feed myself and not feed him.

And Two: He knows when I’m trying to write. He can sense it. He wants to be held. Now, I don’t think he would mind, if it weren’t for the fact that I can’t write and hold him unless he’s laying in my arms. He doesn’t want to lay. He wants to sit up and see the world.

He can’t sit up and see the world when he has a floppy, floppy head and a penchant for trying to give himself brain damage if I’m not supporting it. Ergo… floppy heads make for pretty poor writing. Still, he’s getting bigger and stronger every day, and I know that he’s gonna be able to support himself soon. It’s crazy, because I’m both excited and terrified for that fact. He’s growing so fast ❤ and I know he’s gonna be this little only for a while. I’m excited to get a proper writing habit re-established. I’m ready for it – I’ve been ready for it… but I’m going to enjoy all of the tiny baby cuddles while I can.

So, that’s really the update of what’s been going on with me. I’ve been holding a baby, and have progressed to being able to play Fallout 4 (slowly) while holding him if I’m on the PS4. I know I’ll end up improving and being able to write soon. Hell, NaNo is just around the corner, and I intend to get writing done then no matter what. I do think things would be easier if I had a decent laptop x.x mine is busttteedddd, so writing while in bed isn’t so easy.

Ah well, things will work out and I will be back to regular writing soon!

Until next time, guys! Keep writing!

Author Amanda McCormick

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