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K is for Kindness, and I think that it’s one of the more important aspects of writing. I’ve talked a lot about how important it is to have writing buddies, and this letter kind of corresponds to that, as well as so many other elements of writing. K is for Kindness, because you’re not going to get anywhere without it – or, if you do, then you did it without any of that warmth and love that I feel makes projects rewarding. Kindness comes in many forms, and when it comes to writing… I’ll touch on just a few.

Be kind to your writing buddies – you’re all writing together. Don’t tell them that their works sucks (even if it needs a lot of improvement.) My number one rule for critique is a compliment sandwich. Read up on it, learn it, love it, use it. It’s what you’d want, honestly – because constant, harsh criticism is a terrible thing to face. Instead, tell your writing buddies something good about their story, and then give them a critique… and then tell them something else that you enjoyed. They will get the critique, and hopefully they will listen… but they’ll also have a boost of confidence in their writing that will help them to keep going.

Kindness also comes in book reviews, and how you give them to other writers. If you’re reading a self-pub, an indie book, make sure to give a review for the writer? (I say this even for famous authors, because I think reviews are beautiful things to give). They need the encouragement, the reviews, the ratings. You’re really helping them out in that sense, and it’s something that you’d want in return, isn’t it?

Kindness comes in how we handle our day to day schedule. Sometimes, writing isn’t easy – sometimes, in fact, it turns us into crabby monsters. Don’t let that bleed into your personal life. Don’t ruin relationships or friendships because your characters made you cranky… because, in the end, that’s just going to make you not want to write even more. Kindness in your life is just as important as Kindness in your writing.

Kindness comes in to how we approach other writers. This is one of the most important things that I’m touching on today, at least in my opinion. It’s really, really easy for writers to be a bit uppity, a bit high and mighty. It’s easy to be kind of pretentious, if you think that you’re very good at what you do; especially if the people that you’re talking to aren’t writers, or are new writers, etc. I give tips and tricks, but I never assume that my methods will be a blanket statement for everyone. I have an extremely high writing speed, but when I sprint in my writing room, I encourage everyone, and always tell them that any amount of words is impressive. No matter how confident you are in your skills as a writer, no matter how much you want to brag and feel fantastic, just make sure that it comes off as sharing and not… rubbing it in a person’s face. Likewise, however, you need to show kindness to the people who are doing better than you are. If a person writes more words a day than you, don’t be jealous – just strive to amp up your words. If a person posts a story that gets more views/comments/etc than yours… congratulate them. They are your friend, and you should be happy ❤ Strive to increase your views, strive to better yourself. A little healthy competition is a good thing – jealousy is the antithesis to kindness, and we don’t need to have space in our hearts for it when it comes to our writing and our friends.

The last bout of Kindness that I’m going to talk about is, perhaps, the most important leg of it that I can touch on. Be kind to yourself. It’s extremely easy for us to get upset with ourselves, be hard on ourselves. If you can’t get past being unkind to yourself, you’re always going to hold yourself back – don’t sit and talk about how terrible your work is. You are your own worst critique, always and forever. Don’t allow your mind to tell you that you can’t, because you can. You are a writer, you can write, and you can do this. If you have a few bad days, that’s fine. It doesn’t make you any less of a writer. If your story doesn’t win a contest, that’s okay, because you’re still a writer. If you miss a week of writing? Guess what, you’re still a writer. We all have bad days – Hell, bad weeks. If you don’t like your story? That’s fine. I bet someone else will. Don’t forever close yourself up because you can’t be Kind to yourself, and therefore never let anyone see all of those beautiful words that you’re putting to paper. You are amazing, I promise. I’ve never read it, but you are – you are, because you’re a writer, and you have worlds living inside of you. You create them, you let them out, and you should never be ashamed of yourself or think you aren’t good enough.

Be kind to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be kind to yourself.

I can’t say it enough. Be kind, my fellow writers. In all aspects of your life. It will reflect to your heart, your soul, and your writing ❤ Your entire being will thank you for it.

As always, if you want to see anything specific for the letters L-Z, just let me know. If you want to see me writing about anything at all, I always take suggestions!!! Likewise, if you have any blog/writing/art/music/etc that you think would be inspiring to others, link me to it! I’d love to do some reblogs!

Until the letter L!

Author Amanda McCormick

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